Woman Flips Out When Friend Can’t Come To Her Birthday Because Of A Chemotherapy Session

One of the duties of being ais showing up to support your partner in crime on their very best and worst days. Whether they’re getting married or crying into a tub of ice cream after an unexpected breakup, they’ll need you to be there to lend a hand, dry their tears and do everything that they’d happily do for you.

Unfortunately, there will sometimes be extenuating circumstances that make it impossible for friends to be on call. But does that mean the entire relationship should be thrown away? One woman was recently called selfish for skipping her best friend’s birthday forreasons. Below, you’ll find theshe made on Reddit detailing the situation, as well as some of the replies readers shared.

This woman has been undergoing chemotherapy to treat lupus

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But her best friend didn’t think that was a valid excuse for missing her birthday party

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Here’s the conversation the two women had

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Later, the author shared a bit more background information about the friendship

Lupus is an autoimmune disease that can cause extreme fatigue and joint pain

It’s not easy to find a. And it can be even harder to keep one around for over a decade. But when you meet someone that you really mesh with, you’ll never want to let them go. Thereports that 59% of Americans have a best friend, and two thirds say they are still close with at least one friend from childhood.

Women are nearly twice as likely as men to say that they have received emotional support from their friends in the past week, and about half have told a friend that they love them in the past week as well.

So what does it really mean to be a good friend? According to, the qualities of a great friend include being trustworthy, honest, loyal, dependable and empathetic. They should also be a good listener and make you feel better after spending time with them.

True friends aren’t judgmental and are low-maintenance. They should always respect boundaries, encourage you and make time for you. Great friends are communicative, patient, supportive, kind and will always have your back and stand up for you.

But a healthy friendship must go both ways. It’s not fair for the woman described in this story to expect her friend to drop everything for her birthday, while she refuses to show any empathy towards her supposed “best friend’s” health problems.

is a chronic autoimmune disease that mainly impacts a person’s skin, joints and internal organs. There are several different types, but the vast majority of people diagnosed with lupus, 9 out of 10 people to be exact, are women. Symptoms can vary widely, but they often include intense fatigue, joint pain and a butterfly rash.

Patients should prioritize taking care of their health after undergoing chemo

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While chemotherapy is often associated with treating,reports that it’s sometimes used to treat lupus as well. It works by weakening and suppressing the immune system, therefore preventing it from attacking a patient’s healthy cells and tissues. However, there are potential side effects.

The drugs used in chemo for lupus may include methotrexate, belimumab, mycophenolate mofetil and cyclophosphamide. Some of the side effects that these drugs might cause in patients are nausea, headaches, diarrhea, dizziness, upset stomach, vomiting, bladder problems, liver damage and respiratory symptoms.

After receiving chemotherapy treatment, thenotes that it’s important for patients to take good care of themselves. They recommend eating healthy, staying hydrated, exercising regularly, getting plenty of rest, practicing stress relieving techniques and practicing good hygiene.

At the same time, they discourage patients from over-exerting themselves and neglecting self-care and healthy habits. There’s no doubt that attending a friend’s birthday party could be lots of fun, and it’s important to maintainwith loved ones while struggling with health issues.But in this author’s case, going out all night partying could be extremely detrimental to her health.

We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation below, pandas. Do you think this woman was overreacting? Then, you can find another Bored Panda article discussing birthday drama.

Readers were appalled by the friend’s behavior and assured the author that she shouldn’t feel guilty about missing the party

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I spent my 42nd birthday getting chemo. I definitely couldn’t do anything else that day

My friend, I hope you are doing as well as you can be. I remember that you mentioned that your illness is terminal. You and I are the same age, and I can only imagine how you feel. If you ever need/want to vent, talk about anything, scream into the void, or just want to see amusing photos of my pets wearing ridiculous costumes to hopefully give you a chortle, my contact info is on my profile. You are definitely loved by your fellow Pandas <3

You are a beautiful soul

kzys59pcrp – believe Lakota – she’ll do it, too! ❤️

Thank you LakotaWolf! My latest scan show the cancer is holding steady. I actually think my teenager will be the death of me before the cancer lol

As a former teenager, I can guarantee you that yes, yes they will XD <3

Sorry for your very wearing day on your birthday. A very belated (even if by a few years?) happy 42nd birthday!

Hope you’re doing so much better! The F**k It 40s are meant to be spent giving the universe the middle finger, not barfing on it. Love and hugs to you ❤️

Any hospital procedure can be exhausting for the patient (sadly I know from experience). There is so much stress from what is wrong with them, will the visit go well, will they recover. I feel zonked the rest of the day even for a fairly minor visit (in comparison with chemo). Besides 25 is not an important birthday. It symbolises the age when your brain is supposed to finish developing, but isn’t really a thing. At least for those of us who have been through many, many more birthdays. I sure can’t remember my 25th, but I have clear memories of my 20th (feeling old) and 21st (feeling young and having the most amazing party).

I learned today that chemo can be a treatment for lupus! I hope it helps OP out! As an aside, were I OP, I’d be super mega petty and call the restaurant that the birthday child is at (yep, I called her a child, lol) and ask them to have a waiter go to the table and say to EVERYONE there: “Hey, everyone, [OP’s name] just called in and asked us to wish [friend’s name] a happy birthday, and she wishes she could be here with all of you, but she had a chemo session today!” (I know that’s sh!tty and unfair pressure on the waiter, but it’s sure a nice little daydream to imagine it!)

I like that. I’d offer the waiter a $20 tip for his impromptu telegram service. Maybe Venmo, or if another friend at the party could hand him the cash?

I spent my 42nd birthday getting chemo. I definitely couldn’t do anything else that day

You are a beautiful soul

kzys59pcrp – believe Lakota – she’ll do it, too! ❤️

Thank you LakotaWolf! My latest scan show the cancer is holding steady. I actually think my teenager will be the death of me before the cancer lol

As a former teenager, I can guarantee you that yes, yes they will XD <3

Sorry for your very wearing day on your birthday. A very belated (even if by a few years?) happy 42nd birthday!

Hope you’re doing so much better! The F**k It 40s are meant to be spent giving the universe the middle finger, not barfing on it. Love and hugs to you ❤️

I like that. I’d offer the waiter a $20 tip for his impromptu telegram service. Maybe Venmo, or if another friend at the party could hand him the cash?

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Woman Flips Out When Friend Can’t Come To Her Birthday Because Of A Chemotherapy Session

Woman Flips Out When Friend Can’t Come To Her Birthday Because Of A Chemotherapy Session

This woman has been undergoing chemotherapy to treat lupus

But her best friend didn’t think that was a valid excuse for missing her birthday party

Here’s the conversation the two women had

Later, the author shared a bit more background information about the friendship

Lupus is an autoimmune disease that can cause extreme fatigue and joint pain

Patients should prioritize taking care of their health after undergoing chemo